After my father passed and my brothers and I were cleaning out the house getting ready to sell it, I saw this one in action – big time!
While most of the time my brothers were getting along fine, there were other times when they would somehow trigger each other and then really be upset with each other. As an outsider to “their mutual history” – I am the “baby brother” by almost 11 years – I had no idea what was causing this.
I was curious about it, so I talked to each one individually to try and understand what was going on. Maybe I could intervene and find a way to make this, already emotionally charged situation, go smoother. With a little detective work I found out that neither one of them actually remembered why they were upset with the other one, or what the original incident was that had triggered the upset! Yet at the same time, they were each holding onto that grudge, because they each knew that they were supposed to be upset about whatever it was.
I believe that if most of us stopped for a moment to really look at the people and things that are upsetting to us, we would each likely find that there is at least one thing, if not a whole handful, that we continue to hang on to but we can’t quite remember all of the details of why it is so upsetting. I think that particularly with family members, this sort of thing is far more common than any of us realize.
Release childhood fears with EFT Tapping
As we’re growing up, we all say and do things to other people that creates an impact in their life that we don’t understand. (Or even care about at the time, because we’re just a young kid and don’t know any better.) But that impact sticks with the other person and shapes their life in some way.
I remember my oldest brother describing a “game” that he used to play and how funny he thought it was…at least at the time. He is about a year older than our middle brother, so they spend most of their formative childhood together, long before I arrived. The eldest brother figured out that he could sneak up on his brother and get quite close before he saw him. This lead to a fun “game” of “sneak up and scare my brother,” which was great fun for the elder brother. Not that he was being mean on purpose, he was just being a young kid. That “game” ended when the doctors finally figured out that our middle brother was terribly nearsighted and needed glasses in order to see much of anything beyond about 5 feet!
Release your fear of the unknown with EFT Tapping
I can only imagine what life would be like if your “visible world” was only a few feet in diameter. Especially when, as a toddler, there were “scary things” right beyond your field of view! I would expect this would lead to one having a heightened sense of insecurity and a feeling of “constantly facing unseen dangers” as you were a young child. I think it could also lead to a bunch of “triggers” that are of unseen, or lost origin.
The good news is that one could do some very effective EFT Tapping in order to address these. One of the aspects that would be worth address is the heightened sense of “alarm” that might be lying there and making the triggers more sensitive. You could tap on things like, “Even though I have this heightened sense of danger around me, and it feels like I can never fully relax and feel safe, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.” I would also do some tapping on things like, “Even though I feel like I’m always on edge, searching for the dangers which are about to pounce on me, and I don’t even know why, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway.”
Release your upset of forgotten origin with EFT Tapping
Without a specific incident to tap on, the way that I would start to approach these issues of lost origin, is with the setup phrase like “Even though I’m extremely angry and I’m holding on to this grudge, but I can’t remember exactly why or exactly what happened, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway.” Another setup phrase might be, “Even though I’m pissed because I know I should be, even if I can’t remember about what, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway.” And another way to approach this might be,” Even though I’ll never let it go because I know I’m right, even I can’t remember about what, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway.”
So give that a try the next time you run into something that you’re upset about, but have forgotten the origins of, and see if that helps you to release it.
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